Can you really be unlucky in life?

On July 26, 2015, during one of my weight lifting sessions in my gym that Sunday morning, I had a momentary lapse of concentration and accidently lost balance of my weights. I was carrying 20 kgs weights in each hand. It slipped for a moment, but then I regained control. I then continued to do my exercise. But later that afternoon, my wrist started to pain. The next day my doctor confirmed that I had a triangular fibrocartilage complex tear.  The TFCC is located on the small finger side of the wrist that cushions and supports the small carpal bones and wrist movement. This portion receives very little blood supply and therefore takes a long time to heal. I had to wear a wrist supporter for the next few months I was told that I couldn’t lift weight for at least 4-6 months, till it was healed enough, and even after that the process would be slow.

Can you really be unlucky in life?

I was devastated that I couldn’t lift weights. The year before, I was doing more weights, as I had leg cartridge issues in my past which let me do only limited cardio exercises. Now I was unable to do even weights. For me exercise was not just to remain healthy, it was an intrinsic part of who I was -it defined my mood. I also was angry on my fate, which led me to this injury. Just felt unlucky – why did it happen to me? There were so many people at the gym who I have been observing since the last 10 years, and I never see anyone get that injury before?

Lifting anything now was bit of a struggle; the pain lasted longer than I thought. It took me at least 8 months to recover enough to start lifting weights again. However even today, I still don’t have the original strength in my wrist like before. But I do manage to lift.

So the question I asked myself many times during the last few months is why it happened to me? In fact it was had become a trend. I had 3 major injuries over the last 4 years, Each time I improved my routines, I ended up injuring myself and it sets me back by few months. It was really frustrating.

Then a couple of months later something happened. A realization.

One day, I was getting late to office and was rushing around trying to get everything ready. As I was heading towards the bathroom for a quick shower, I almost slipped due to the wet floor, but quickly gathered my balance, avoided a possible fall. I was in so much of hurry that I carried on for the shower, as if nothing happened. Suddenly a moment of realization then struck, that maybe had I actually fallen, it could have been really bad.

It was marble flooring, and I could have hurt my back, shoulder, anything. It could have resulted in bed rest for god knows what time. But all that didn’t happen. In fact nothing happened. But I guess, I was never grateful for that save.

 And then I realised, that many times I have been saved from such disasters, whether it was during a moment of rash driving, or slipping on the stairs, or simply just falling off the bed. The last one happened during the time I was writing this post.   All those moments could have ended up in some form of injury. However if we closely observe our response during such situations, what do we generally do?  We merely express a sense of relief for a couple of seconds, and are back in our regular life.

I think such moments deserve more gratitude and one needs to take some time out and reflect on what just happened and how lucky one is.  And then one day when some injury does happen, you can only look back on all the other instances, when you actually got saved and not feel so terrible about it

Not that it will take away the pain, but it would certainly make you realize that things could have been worse and you were saved on those occasions. You need to realize that, the law of averages simply catch up someday.

It will help you accept the current situation and move on in life, just like you used to when you actually got saved many other times. Because life has many ups and downs, it does not want you to stop and keep pondering over what happened, but rather keep moving forward with a positive spirit and look at the positive that you can make out of life

As for me, post that realization, in my own small way, this injury did not let me affect me negatively. Yes I could not lift weights, so I focussed on other form of exercises and more on my diet which helped keep my body weight in check. Since March 2016, I began my weight routines from basic level. Even today I still have nagging pain after a session of lifting weights.  However I accept this pain, as part of my life not letting it hamper my spirit. That I can never be fully fit for lifting heavy weight may be a reality, but if I realize the many times I have been saved, I can only consider myself overall lucky.

I think we tend to remember only the negatives in our life (that they should not be considered negatives is a different story altogether), we downplay the positives and more importantly the possible negatives which were avoided during the course of our lifetime.  As those also are positives in much bigger way. Cause if we look at that in totality we all have been terribly lucky for sure.

If you still don’t believe me. Try to remember all various instances which could have been possible negatives and you got saved. You would surely consider yourself lucky.

Cheers to life

Can you really be unlucky in life?

 

Three Learning’s to help deal with Tough Situations:

(This post was written over a two months period so there may be continuity errors. I will keep updating on the progress and correct the errors. For now just uploaded the rough draft)

Last two month were pretty tough – both physically and mentally. Two of my family members were in and out of the hospital, a relative was injured. Professionally, we had  three key people resign from our company. We also  lost some big orders which we were pitching for.  And if that was not enough, I ended up injuring my wrist during exercise -put me out for eight weeks. That’s more than the typical share of bad news you expect for a eight week period!

Stevan Noronha : Dealing with Tough Situations

Isn’t it always the case, that when one bad thing happen, many follow in quick intervals. And this just makes the whole scenario look so bleak. And I wonder why it happens, and what can we really do about this.

Of course we have no control over what happens. But our approach to these events, make a lot of difference in how we are able to overcome such a situation. Over the last few years, I have become stronger in handling such events and therefore through this post would like to share key learnings which helps me get over such a period. And I’m sure you too may have experienced such situations.

Here are three important things you should be aware of, which can help you tide over such situations

Why Not to Judge at First Sight?

We are all aware about the concept of Love at First Sight. And most of us would have actually experienced it as well. For me, it was love at first sight with my now wife, when I first met her  outside the office building. I knew she was the one.

However, love at first sight is rare, it may happen once in a lifetime or it may not happen at all. But there is another variation which we all experience, day in and day out. And that is something very important to understand and appreciate, as it is an essential building block for relationships of any kind – be it personal or profession. I’m referring here to the concept of ‘To Judge at first Sight’. And we all do it all the time.

Being Judgmental

Being judgmental is human, this post does not mean to preach about not being judgmental because it’s simply not possible, not to do judge people. However through my experiences, I have realized that it’s definitely wrong, to judge people at first sight. I have most often, proven wrong on this.

How to get out of your comfort zone?

As a teenager, one of my biggest fears was lack of confidence. I was an introvert, and the thought of interacting or being present among a group of strangers really scared the hell out of me.I had several friends who were extrovert, and could start a conversation with anyone, within no time. I longed to be like them.  At that time, this was the No.1 priority for me – to get rid of this fear. 

Stevan Noronha _ Get out of your comfort Zone

However, I did realize that certain behaviors can be learnt, but most are natural, it’s part of your DNA. I don’t think even today, I could be as spontaneous, as I would like to be, and have simply accepted that. However there are lot of other things which can be overcome.

THIS IS HOW YOU BUY FREEDOM TO DO WHAT YOU WANT

Stevan Noronha - Freedom Blog

I see people all around, employed in well-paid jobs, but not really happy with how their professional life is heading. They are looking for a change.

Most common reasons – problem with their bosses, office culture being a misfit, money problem, need promotion, wanting to start own venture, stagnation.

The logical solution would be to quit and move on or do something else. However most don’t change. They CHOOSE to continue and accept the misery of what their current job has to offer. They learn to adjust themselves and over a period of time accept their fate.